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Top tips for managing the school holidays after separation

Top tips for managing the school holidays after separation

Managing school holidays after separation requires coordination, communication, and a focus on the well-being of the children. Here are some tips to help you navigate school holidays as co-parents:

Create a Co-Parenting Plan: Establish a detailed co-parenting plan that outlines arrangements for school holidays. This plan should include specifics about who will have the children during each break and how decisions will be made.

Plan in Advance: Start planning for school holidays well in advance. This allows for better coordination, minimises conflicts, and ensures that both of you have ample time to make arrangements.

Be Flexible: Recognise the importance of flexibility. School holidays often involve changes in routines, and unexpected events may occur. Be willing to adjust plans if needed and communicate any changes promptly.

Share Information: Keep each other informed about the children’s school holiday schedules, including any special events, activities, or requirements. This helps both you both to stay involved in the children’s lives.

Coordinate Activities: Coordinate activities and plans for the children during school holidays. This ensures that you both have the opportunity to engage in meaningful and enjoyable experiences with the children.

Communicate with the Children: Communicate with the children about holiday plans. Let them know in advance where they will be spending the holidays and be ready to answer questions and reassure them about their holiday plans.

Share Expenses: Consider sharing the financial responsibilities of school holiday activities, including the use of holiday clubs, travel, or special outings. Open communication about expenses helps avoid misunderstandings.

Celebrate Special Occasions: If there are birthdays or other special occasions during school holidays, discuss how these will be celebrated and involve the children in the decision-making process.

Consider the Children’s Wishes: As the children grow older, consider their preferences regarding holiday plans. If appropriate, involve them in discussions about where they would like to spend their school holidays.

Take Advantage of Technology: Use technology to stay connected with the children during school breaks. Video calls, emails, and messages can help maintain a sense of connection for the children with both parents.

Stay Positive: Keep a positive attitude about the children spending time with the other parent during school holidays. Encourage and support their relationships with both their parents, wider family networks and/ or within their blended families. Remember to have fun!

Look after yourself: When your children do spend time with the other parent, you may feel a mixture of emotions from loneliness to relief. You do not need to feel guilty for feeling a sense of relief when the children holiday with the other parent- it is challenging being a separated parent, and you deserve a break. Make the most of the time by doing something for yourself or spending time with friends and family.

Remember that the goal is to create the best possible experience for the children and everyone involved during the school holidays, By approaching the situation with empathy, communication, and flexibility, you can create an enjoyable experiences for everyone.

Let us help you prepare for the holidays by working with one of our professional mediators. Contact us today.